It is a milestone in every parent’s life when a child turns 18. The child is now an adult, and while many responsibilities now shift from the parent to the child, parents still want to be involved in helping their young adult make decisions. A prior blog post, When a Child Legally Becomes an Adult: A Parent’s Right to Stay Informed, addressed the legal issues that a parent and child should consider when a child reaches that 18th birthday.
This month I want to focus on the issues and concerns when you have a child with special needs turning 18. For parents of special needs children, parental involvement can be critical, and depending on the disability, necessary for continuation of care.
An elder law colleague recently shared a list she put together for her clients who have special needs children. The list is a “what should I think about” and “what should I be aware of” before my special needs child turns 18. I would like to share her list (giving credit to Ailish O’Connor, Esq.)
This list is a great place to start and will enable you as a parent of a special needs child to gather the information you need, to begin the process of being prepared before that birthday arrives, and to celebrate that 18th birthday knowing you and your child are ready for the future.
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